Astrologer in Training – Relationships

by Cindy Fadoir

eagle and the condor“Relationships.” That’s a big word encompassing many forms. There are many types of relationships between people: family, friendships, dating, marriage, siblings, enemies, co-workers, follow PTA members, etcetera. There are also relationships between planets in ones’ birth chart, otherwise known as aspects. We will delve into some basic people relationships using planets and their aspects to each other.

Our first experience with relationships comes from that relationships between our Father and Mother. People want to be connected. Often the time of birth reflects a person’s choice of entry into a birth chart pattern that best fits their soul issues or Karmic journey. Part of this pattern is choosing how to see our parents’ relationship to each other by looking at the Sun and Moon placements. The Sun represents our Father, or male authority figure, who teaches us how to play, work and explore the outer world. The Moon represents our Mother, or the maternal authority figure, who fills our needs, nurtures and provides emotional support.

The element of the Sun and Moon placement quickly describes what is desired from the Father and Mother. A Sun or Moon in a fire sign expects a parent with spontaneity and warmth; in an air sign expects communicativeness and intellect; in a water sign expects sensitivity and nurturing; in an earth sign expects security and stability.

The placement of Venus and Mars, and their aspect to the Sun and Moon, are also significant in evaluating relationship expectations. Venus reflects how we are trained to be affectionate, friendly, loving, what we value, and find beautiful. Mars trains us how to express passion, sensuality, assertiveness and virility. For women, Venus shows the feminine model which the women desires to be and wishes to project, although the reality may be different; and Mars reflects the masculine qualities she is attracted to, as well as the inner masculine qualities she projects to her ideal mate. For men, Venus describes the feminine qualities he is attracted to and the inner feminine nature that he projects onto his ideal mate; and Mars reflects the male archetype he wishes to become and that is projected outward, although the reality may be different.

Besides the signs, elements and qualities of the Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars, it is helpful to review the aspects of each planet. The aspects between the Sun and Moon represent how we see our parents’ relationship, what love means and how intimacy looks. Aspects between Sun, Venus and Mars also show balance or challenges between expectations of relationships. Opposition and Square aspects can be seen as challenge, tension and debates but also, passionate connections. Trine and Sextile aspects may create harmony and peace expressed as teamwork. Conjunct aspects may enhance harmony or challenge depending on the natural drive of each planets’ sign. As for the Sun and Moon, usually a conjunction would be the same sign, which still does not guarantee harmony.

What follows is a more detailed discussion of Aspects as reported in a previous article:

Not all Aspects are exact.  Aspects are said to have an orb of influence when planet degree differences are plus or minus 5 to 8 degrees of an Aspect angle.  Conjunction, Sextile and Trine Aspects are generally considered harmonious while Squares and Oppositions are considered challenged.  Keep in mind that being challenged is not always a bad influence.  Sometimes challenges are what get us to step up and face adversity head on.  Some might say there are no challenges, only opportunities.  The following are the five Major Aspects:

Conjunction: When planets are 0 degrees apart, they are considered mutually enhancing, blended, teammates.  The energies of the two planets are brought together in an immediate way, fused and intense. This is said to be the most powerful of all Aspects which is great when the conjoined planets are compatible, but if not, then stress or challenge is created.

Sextile: When planets are 60 degrees apart, they are considered cooperative, supportive, flowing.  Traditionally an aspect of ease, harmony and lack of tension, Sextile is less powerful then other major aspects. This Aspect is so comfortable that it is less effective and more stressful.  An excess of sextiles in a birth chart might indicate a passivity challenge.

Square: When planets are 90 degrees apart, friction, challenges and tensions will result between the two planets.  The planets will be at cross purposes and might result in forcing an issue.  The influence may be energizing or a blockage may occur depending on the two planets involved.  Fortunately, this may point to the possibility of enormous growth.

Trine: When planets appear 120 degrees apart, they usually involve the same elemental signs therefore result in a harmonious influence, such as planets in Aquarius, Gemini and Libra all air signs. This flowing influence embodies potential and good fortune.

Opposition: As the example shows above, when planets are 180 degrees apart, they are considered to be at odds.  Whether polarized or complementing, there results dynamic tensions.  Compatible energies are invigorated and strengthened, often passionate. Compatible energies are found in polarities, such as Gemini and Sagittarius (air and fire) or Taurus and Scorpio (earth and water), which means their elements are different but compatible.  The qualities are therefore often the same, as in Gemini and Sagittarius are both mutable and Taurus and Scorpio are both fixed.  With these compatibilities, the resolution of these oppositions start with at least a compromise.

In the next few months, we will continue our journey into relationships by bringing houses into the discussion. Until then, may your star be harmonious and the sun warm your heart.

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