by Cindy Fadoir
Relationships . . . so where did we leave off?? We’ve discussed the balance and blending of elements and qualities. We’ve reviewed the Ascendant (or Rising) sign and revisited the houses. We investigated various types of relationships experienced between people as well as between planets. But what of the relationships between houses and how houses relate to relationships?
As previously discussed, key houses to consider in the study of relationships is the fourth and tenth houses, which both deal with family and home life, including your parents. Also important is relationship between the fifth, seventh and eleventh houses, which represent love affairs, partnerships and friendships. But before you can truly understand relationships, one must understand oneself, which can be found in the first house starting with the Ascendant or Rising sign on the cusp.
The cusp or beginning Zodiac sign of each house determines the ruling sign and planet of that house. The “natural” ruler is the underlying life stage to be experienced but the “natal” ruler reveals to how that life stage will unfold. The ruling planet of that sign is the “natal” ruler of that house and where that planet appears in the natal chart and what aspects to other planets can also influence how a person functions in that life stage. For example, in my chart the Ascendant, or first house cusp, is Libra then the natal ruling sign is Libra and the natal ruling planet is Venus. The planet Venus resides in my chart in the fifth house in the sign of Pisces. Libra desires love partnerships, someone to love and be loved. Venus in Pisces often confuses lust for love and falls into relationships too fast, not exactly a stable beginning for a long term partnership. My Venus has a square aspect to my Mars which puts stress on partnerships in general. The planet Neptune resides in the sign of Scorpio in my natal first house adding another layer of Pisces influence to the equation since Neptune rules the sign of Pisces.
Opposite of the first house is the seventh house of partnership. The first house reveals information about oneself and the seventh house reveals the type of partnership desired in this lifetime. The seventh house cusp is also known as the Descendent and often referred to as the shadow self or alter ego. The seventh house represents what you unconsciously lack yet desire, a missing piece that a partnership may fulfill. The opposite of Libra is Aries which is the cusp of my seventh house with natal ruling planet of Mars. This might reveal my desire for a strong, warrior personality in my partnerships, someone who has a mind of their own and can stand on their own two feet but still have fiery passion. My Mars resides in my second house in the sign of fiery Sagittarius. This reveals my wish for partner who is also a seeker and willing to travel. Again, the square between Mars and Venus makes finding this partnership a challenge. Squares can sometime energize instead of block the influence of the planets involved.
Another set of opposite houses to consider in a relationship is the fourth house and the ten house, which both deal with family and home life, including your parents. The fourth house reveals your roots, childhood, parents and therefore what you want or need from others to feel safe. The tenth house represents a larger, grownup family, where authoritative limitations were drawn and show how you deal within the boundaries.
The parent discussion: a previous article stated “Your relationship with your father can be found in the fourth house and with your mother in the tenth house.” This is not agreed on by all astrologers. Further research reveals diverse opinions on this front. Some say the fourth house represents the more nurturing, sensitive, less dominant parent and the tenth house represents the authoritarian, disciplining, more dominant parent. Others warn against only one house assignment for parents since the parental roles change over years and societal adjustments.
In my chart, my mother was both the nurturer and the more dominant parent. My tenth house cusp is watery Cancer with ruling planet of the Moon. It just so happens that my mother was Cancer and my natal Moon resides in the tenth house. My fourth house cusp is earthy Capricorn with ruling planet of Saturn. Saturn ruling the fourth house can indicate poverty or single parent household but, if well placed, can indicate parents starting with little but gaining success later in life. Cancer ruling the tenth house also may indicate the mother fulfilling both parental roles. Security becomes important early on and a desired partnership would need to demonstrate an ability to provide a safe, nurturing environment. My father often worked away from home so my mother was left to fill both roles. And yes, my parents started with little but were very successful as the years progressed.
One more set of opposite houses to consider is the fifth and eleventh houses, each representing family and friends. The fifth house experiences creativity, children and love affairs. The eleventh house experiences friendships, groups, and ambitions. My fifth house cusp is Aquarius with Uranus as natal ruling planet, usually indicating exceptional children. I don’t have children but I have a brilliant niece who is Pisces, which happens to be the sign my Venus resides in, the one planet in my fifth house chart. My eleventh house cusp is Leo with the Sun as ruling planet. My Sun is in the sign of Aquarius, the friendship sign. My Sun reside in my fourth house of family. Friendships are very important to me and some friends often become as close as family to me.
Not everyone will have such straight forward charts regarding relationships and family. We all choose how we perceive people in our lives. I do find it interesting that my sister has the Ascendant as I so she does experience our parents in a similar way, however my brother’s Ascendant is Capricorn so his fourth house cusp is fiery, strong Aries indicative of our Cancer mother and his tenth house cusp is airy, detached Libra representing our airy Gemini father. My niece, has a Libra Ascendant, like her mother and me, and she was raised by a single mother.
Other houses come into play when understanding self and partner but do not directly influence relationships. Until next time, may the sun warm the winter skies and stars blaze the way to your hearts’ desire.
read more about Cindy Fadoir here . . .
this article can also be seen in Star Nations digital magazine starnations.org